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We're now at 800+ members!I'm pleased to say I've been invited to mod. Join us to vent, rant & share your thoughts & opinions. We've had great discussions about common misconceptions re dominance & abuse from the right side of the slash. And more serious topics. Such as cloaks.

Dominance is not a fix for personal issues. While a dynamic can help w/ structure & accountability for what you're already working on, a dom won't magically fix things for you. To really let someone else have control over you, you need to have at least some control over yourself

It's vital to be clear on whether 'punishment' is for mutual fun and giggles, or whether it's meant to genuinely modify behaviour / serve as a consequence. A lack of clarity can lead to confusion, frustration and hurt on both sides. silkenclaws.com/2023/07/24/pun…

Being submissive isn't the same thing as being passive - dominance is a response, just like submission. Having no desires, interests or personality only serves to make someone *less* appealing as a sub.

This. It's why I personally intensely dislike the term 'role reversal' . Especially when it's used to describe eg men being the subject of affection. For crying out loud, there's nothing 'role reversed' about petting a boy's hair.

It's a myth punishment = beatings. Punishment is defined by the intent to modify behavior. It's not about physical pain, but creating an unpleasant consequence. And what's unpleasant is entirely down to the individual.

Oh, I know. And I'm never alarmed. In fact, I think it's the best part. My sub may or may not have a different opinion. But that's not important, is it.

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Having never done 'vanilla' relationships, my experience with kink leaves me chronically confused at the lack of communication, self-awareness & compatibility in quite a few of my vanilla friends' relationships. Why is it that so many are allergic to just talking to each other?

Yes, exactly this. A masochist who doesn't know they are one can push people in really toxic ways. Masochism is fundementally, by its nature, self-centred. Sadism requires an exercise of empathy - you can't enjoy want you can't understand.

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Welcome to E-Lust 164, a monthly digest of sex and kink bloggers - have a look and see what takes your fancy. Among many delicious and interesting things, this month's E-Lust covers punishment, how to approach a mistress, and fun penis facts. silkenclaws.com/e-lust-164-pun…

As a sadist, I hate using narrative of punishment. No offence to anyone who's into it, but I just find it so unnecessary. If I want to hurt my sub, I will *just hurt him*. I don't need an excuse.

Is anyone having issues with masses of bot accounts followers? I swear I'm blocking one every other day. They usually have a girls name, maybe a photo and one nonsensical tweet, 1k+ following count, and a handful of followers.

With Locktober chastity mania looming, it's important to remember it's not *every* domme's cup of tea. Dominant women aren't a hive mind and chastity is not a femdom essential! silkenclaws.com/male-chastity-…

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Maintenance spanking is about more than discipline; it can be a means of nurturing good habits, fulfilling mutual needs and maintaining a connection to the dynamic. silkenclaws.com/maintenance-sp…

'Remember gifts are meant to please the other person' is great life advice in general. Last week, someone at my office complained their mother wants a specific sewing machine part for X-Mas and they wouldn't buy it b/c it's not a 'fun' gift & I thought that was quite sad.