Respectfully, colleague - The disappointing thing about this take is you actually can’t have an informed opinion on this if you are choosing to be gender neutral and racially indifferent. Because that is impossible. Her existence as a black woman shapes both how she is seen by

this will always be my go-to reference when it comes to realizing something deeper and leaving a man 😭

she’s right n she should say it louder

Is it low libido? Or is it that your partner is making you carry the emotional and physical labor in your relationship? Carrying the load makes the 🐱 dry up.

Over the last few months, I’ve had folks DM me asking for suggestions with increasing their libido and the first question I usually ask is “how is your sleep” and secondly, “how is the emotional and physical labor load in your house?” Typically, the answer is “sleep is so so”

There is a correlation between shared household labor and your “being in the mood” because one can feel resentful and feelings of resentment or being taken for granted doesn’t make a person wanna take off the panties and it can contribute to the overall “tiredness”.

Folks often 1. Don’t wanna hear that😂 2. we’ve been conditioned to think something is WRONG WITH US all the time AND we’re the ones who have to go find the magic potion Meanwhile… your partner hasn’t even tried to make the bed they wanna lay you down in!!! TUH!

I know you want a special tea, enhancers, magic pill. I know you want a quick fix, but it’s the lack of partnership/equal division of labor. Most likely your 🐱 is FINE. And for those partners who think I’m talking about them, flowers/gifts in a dirty house ain’t gonna cut it.

Reminder. Stop texting that long paragraph and just hit ‘em with the “k”. 1. They’re not gonna read all that 2. You’re gonna be mad by their inadequate response anyway 3. Save your energy. They don’t care

One of my favorite aunts passed away a little while ago and when my mom was making the arrangements, we all realized that we didn’t have too many pictures of her to celebrate and commemorate her life and spirit. After sorting through my own pics last night- I was reminded…

1. We have to stop with this whole, “I don’t take pics because I don’t like the way I look” BS!! I see yall dippin out of pics or volunteering to be everyone’s picture taker- STOP IT. You are letting life pass you by and letting us miss out on watching your beauty and glow!

2. You look hot TODAY You look good TODAY You are FOINE TODAY Even if you want to make “improvements”- you’re still living and you can’t want for it all to happen before you show off! Sometimes it might be too late. She was gorgeous, gleeful and full of love. See for yourself.

Not enough adults are understanding that they have to create moments of happiness in their lives. Find things to be excited about. Create plans to look forward to. Decorate the house during holidays. Make a playlist you only listen to on Tuesdays. Keep your favorite snacks

Sooooo even if you marry them, they still weaponize “baby mama” rhetoric even though people swear there’s some big difference between the two. Good luck disproving misogyny y’all.

I appreciate how much Glorilla tell these girls don’t have these men babies.